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Dear Curious,
Everyone will look at this issue differently. I go to a Big Ten
university with tens of thousands of students from different areas
and backgrounds. Some people are here to get an education, others
are here to have the most intriguing experience of their lives,
and yes...others are here to meet that one special someone.
Opportunity To Meet So Many with So Much in Common
Personally, I am here to get my degree. School comes first for
me; I am obligated to get good grades and graduate with a good education.
But I think it is almost impossible to go through college without
relationships. During college, you find people of all sorts. People
very similar to you and people very different from you.
Finding Out What You Like
This is the beauty of college though. This is the time to figure
out what you like and what you don't like. What kinds of people
you are attracted to and who you cannot stand being with.
There Is No Perfect Mate
But here is the hard part and I know too many people that are troubled
by this (including myself). Too many people are looking for that
special person. They think that there is only one person out there
for them and that person is perfect. The truth: There is not just
one person out there for you and they are not perfect.
I Was Too Picky
I go to school with 40,000 people and I sure haven't met everyone
here, but already there are numerous girls that have blown me away
with their character. I used to be so picky because I felt that
I was better than the girls I met and that they weren't enough of
a challenge for me. But this close-minded attitude got me nowhere!
I realized that I wasn't meeting enough people and I wasn't giving
anyone a chance.
Enhancing My Dating Skills
So I started being open-minded and giving every girl I met a chance.
I've dated about 3 girls since that awakening and I have been going
out with one girl for a couple months now. She is really awesome.
But I wouldn't have known that if I hadn't been willing to go out
with her and give her a chance.
My relationships tend not to last more than a few months too, but
I'm willing to go through those knowing that in the long run I am
realizing what I like and enhancing my dating skills.
Enjoy Your Time
So here is my conclusion: Know what you are doing in college. Are
you there to just have fun? To get your degree? To get a girlfriend?
I'm here for all three but I am NOT here just to meet my future
wife.
Be well rounded. Enjoy your time in college because it will be
over before you know it.
Be Open-Minded
BE OPEN-MINDED AND GIVE EVERYONE A FAIR CHANCE! In turn, things
will happen and you will meet some amazing people and do some amazing
things. Just be yourself.
– Carl
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