Dear Waiting Game,

There Is No "Right One"

There may not be only ONE, but there are very few that will "fit".

I don't believe in "the right one" theory. If we all spent our lives waiting for "the right one", no one would get married. What are the odds that the right one is in your hometown, when she could be in Ecuador, or Monroe, Michigan waiting for you? You've probably dated several women who may be right.

You're Not Ready

Instead, I think that you are not ready. I think that – for whatever reason – you can't commit to a long-term relationship with one person. Why is that? Is your work taking all of your energy? Are you at a transitional time in your life? Did you have a healthy relationship with your family?

You're right – he should take some time off from dating to figure out what he wants.

Ideally, you should get some counseling to answer these questions, but at the very least, you need to ask yourself what is going on before you pursue another relationship. Some people have difficulty with getting really close to another person, but this can be improved.

You Don't Owe Anyone a Marriage Proposal

You mentioned that you don't want to be the kind of man who breaks hearts. If you really mean it, then you need to figure out who you are and what you want. You certainly don't owe anyone a marriage proposal just because you've dated for a while. On the other hand, you are destined to repeat the same pattern with someone new.

– Mare