Dear Panel,

About 10 months ago, I started writing this man I met through a pen-pal site I found online.

He never hid the fact that he is currently doing time (5 years) in an out-of-state prison. I know this sounds like "Springer Drama", but the guy was nice and we found that we have a lot in common.

He does have a criminal record (nothing violent or sexual) and says that since meeting me he has a "new outlook on life" and is very happy for the first time in years, promising never to wind up in prison again! As of last week he writes telling me "how much he LOVES me" for the first time. Unknown to him, I'm starting to have some strong feelings myself towards him. He's really sincere sounding and seems to have an emotional attatchment to me – a healthy one.

Do you think I should give this guy a chance at love and a relationship?

Can people really change once out of prison to become productive members of society and in a relationship?

This guy talks of kids, family, the whole 9 yards. Sounds like he wants to turn over a new leaf.

– Stary Eyed

Female, age 27, USA

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