Dear Kristy,

You Never Teased Him

Well, she could have been more tactful. There are nicer ways to say "no".

OK, you did nothing wrong, you did nothing to tease him. You never once said to him that you had anything but friendship feelings for him. You never said that you wanted anything other than a friendship.

He Had No Right To Ask You Out

I agree he's not a pervert. But he had a right to ask her out the first time.

I don't think that Vance is a pervert, I think he definitely has some self confidence issues beacause of his weight problem. The fact that Vance had liked you since day one says something about betrayal. Sure, he may have a crush on you, but he had no right to ask you out when you was vulnerable.

You turned to Vance for support and he used it against you. You obviously wanted nothing more than a friend to talk to, and a shoulder to cry on.

Vance Is Living in a Fantasy World

Not a lot of women like overweight men, which is why I don't think that Vance is being honest with himself. To think that you had anything but friendship feelings was just a dream for Vance.

What are you talking about? He was just putting himself out there.

It seems to me like Vance is harassing you. This is very wrong. In Vance's mind it seems like "no" means "yes", and "yes" means "yes". When a girl says "no", we mean "no". Not "maybe", not "yes", and we don't want to be bothered with it for days.

Vance Is a Liar

When Vance wrote "now I am messing with her and telling her that she would be the perfect girl for me, just to make her feel better", he totally portrays himself as a liar. He has two different stories.

1. She is very, very hot and I like hot women?
2. I am messing with her to make her feel better?

I think that you should totally keep your distance from Vance. Vance seems to use other people's misery to make himself feel better.

Advice for Vance......

Dear Vance,

Don't Joke About Someone's Misery

When someone comes out of a long term relationship, and is very upset about it, they want to know that they will be OK without the significant other. They don't want to get hit on, or get told that they are your perfect women. What you said was just plain rude, you should learn not to make a joke out of someone else's misery.

Telling Brandon Was the Right Thing To Do

Kristy telling Brandon about what you did is the right thing to do. It's not a scam to try to get him back. Brandon and his family need to know, so that you don't try this on anyone else.

– Bailey