Dear Panel,
Hi my name is Tony. Where should I begin...?
I Am a Perfectionist
I think I am better than most guys out there,
I am sincere, I have a pure heart, I work/ study hard and
trying to walk toward the right road and be successful. I
am very good looking, I don't do drugs, don't smoke. I suppose
I am a perfectionist. But as the old saying goes, no one is
perfect, neither am I. I have couple areas of myself I dislike
and there isn't too much I can do about them. For example,
I am near sighted.
I've Never Had a Girlfriend
Anyway, I am fairly happy about where I am as
a human being, but something bothers me a great deal. I do
not have a girlfriend, nor have I ever. I am a very shy guy
and believe in true love romance and prince and princess kind
of life and stories. That hasn't happened to me yet, but I
believe one day it will.
I don't usually like to talk to girls, because
I believe a guy shouldn't speak to a girl unless he's sincerely
interested in her; unless the guy is 100% absolutely sure
there will not be any sort of emotion going on during the
conversation. Anyway, that's a bit introduction about myself.
I'm Too Nervous To Talk To Her
And here's where the problem begins. I saw this
girl that's living in my dorm and she's the absolutely most
beautiful girl I have ever seen. I am not kidding, she's prettier
than Jennifer Love Hewitt or Britney Spears. As time passes
by, I like her more and more. But until this day, I don't
think I have said more than 20 words to her. I have strong
reason to believe that she likes me a lot also. She tried
to get close to me and just walked by me many times before,
but I was too nervous to say anything to her. If I am not
wrong about how she feels, we are both suffering greatly from
not being able to talk and be with each other.
I have told myself many times before,"Tony,
just go talk to her or even try to say hi every time you see
her around." But I seem to be speechless everytime she's
around.
Will I Make Her Happy?
One of the things that also bothers me is that
if I manage to get to talk to her and even become her friend,
will I be able to control the relationship? Will I make her
happy?
School work and computer lab work already take
over 80% of my life. Can I use only the remaining 20% of the
time to make both myself and her happy? I want her to be happy
with all of my heart.
Should I stay away from her or try to be with
her?
Seems like I will make her sad either way. I
just can't see through this thing. I am confused, lonely and
sad.
Please help if you can. Thank you for reading.
Male, age 21, US San Marcos
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