Dear Panel,

You don't sound confident – you sound desperate.

I am a white 16-year-old junior in high school. I believe I'm attractive and have the confidence needed to attract the guys I like. Although I am really shy around anyone new.

The other main people in this story are all the guys I've met. Some are attractive, but those are the ones who think they need to be burnt 24/7. Others are not very attractive to me but are everything else I've wanted. And still others think they just need sex in a relationship, and I've learned the hard way that's not what I want solely in a relationship. I know I'm young and have lots of time to find the guy for me, but I know what I want and I can't seem to be finding it.

So my question's a little different from most you probably receive. I was wondering if you could tell me how to attract the guys I'm attracted to. I also know this isn't a match-maker service, but if you guys could maybe give some guys who you know are single my e-mail address so maybe we could see if we have anything in common, I would be so thankful.

Who can I hook up with???

– Lonely

Female, age 16, USA

 

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