Dear Anonymous,

I think it's great that you want to get back together with someone that you had such a long relationship with, but if you know that he wants to wait untill he's married to have sex, don't you think this is going to be hard for you?

You'll Be Sexually Frustrated

From the sound of it, you left him because you weren't getting the sex you wanted. So you'll go back to him and then you'll start to be sexually frustrated again. What then? Do you break things off with him and find some guy out there that will just have sex with you? If you are willing to find someone out there that will sleep with you after a short time, don't you think that your old boyfriend will frustrate you? If you truly don't care about the sex, I think that it would be fine for the two of you to get back together, but I think you do care enough about it and he's not going to budge from his values.

Tell Him So He Can Decide

I don't agree. It's none of his business.

If you do get back together with this guy, I think it would be in your best interest and his as well to tell him that you slept with two guys since you broke up. I think this might be enough for him to decide that you want sex and you're willing to go elsewhere for it. I think that people who wait until they are married to have sex, have very strong feelings about it. They themselves would not even think of having sex with someone as quick as you did. Your ex might be really insulted and disgusted by this.

Decide Between Sex and Friendship

My real question is this: What is your reason for getting back together with him? Are you missing the relationship that you weren't able to have with these sexual partners, or what? I think you should really think what's more important to you: sex or friendship? Because for him, it's friendship, and if sex is more important for you, you'll just end up getting sexually frustrated and he'll end up getting hurt. So think about why you really want him back and what it meant when you broke up.

You Don't Have To Tell, But You May Not Want To Hide

That's what I think – relationships should not be founded on untruths and omissions.

Of course, if you really wanted, you don't have to tell him anything at all. But if I were him and I found out you were hiding all that, I would think you were playing me.

I guess what I think you should do isn't decide what you should tell him, but decide whether you want to be with him – because the reason you broke up with him will still be a problem. Think hard about this.

If you break things off with him again for sex, he will be so crushed.

– Carl