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Dear Mr. Long Distance,
Most High School Sweethearts Grow Apart
A year is a long time to be together for a high school relationship,
but in terms of marriage and engagements, it's not all that long.
Some people do marry their highschool sweethearts, but the majority
of people grow apart.
She's Not Ready for Commitment
It sounds to me like Tanya is not ready for the kind of serious
commitment you want. She's young and in high school, she just wants
to have fun.
This is what she should be doing, she should be having fun at this
stage in her life. Did you ever consider what marrying this young
would do to her? She might want to go to college and get a job,
and sometimes that's hard if you marry too young.
I think it's hard for her to keep a relationship with someone so
far away, long distance relationships are one of the hardest things.
You're off meeting new people, people who might have more in common
with you than Tanya does, and she might be feeling left behind.
Hanging On Is Not Fair to Her
Rick seems like the typical guy that senior girls want to be with.
They want to have fun, and they're young enough that they should
be having fun. Maybe hanging on to the relationship wasn't being
fair to Tanya. I think it's great that you and Tanya had a nice,
long relationship. But a lot of things have to come to an end. You
guys are hanging with different crowds now, so it's hard to make
the other person feel included.
Put Marriage Plans on Hold
I'm not saying you should completely break it off with Tanya, because
it sounds like you really cared about each other.
I'm saying maybe it'd be a good idea to cool the relationship,
like maybe dating instead of "going steady".
I think putting marriage plans on hold for right now is a good
idea. You both have a whole future ahead of you, filled with all
the new and different people you both will meet.
Keep in touch with Tanya, but don't try to hold on to a dying relationship,
because that isn't fair to anyone.
– Annie
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