Mo Answers:

Dear Confused,

Why do opposites attract? I don't know that they do.

However, you did not ask "DO opposites attract?", so I will answer your actual question. We'll call the rest of this message "food for thought". I'll throw out a couple of different theories and you decide which one you like best.

People Are Self-Critical

People do not have very high opinions of themselves. Even funny, smart, attractive people will only see their own frizzy hair or nasal laugh or small vocabulary or...you get the picture. Therefore, she doesn't like you any better than she likes herself. Why would she want someone she doesn't like?

People Want What They Don't Have

People want what they believe they don't have. If you and she are exactly alike, she's already got everything you have to offer. She doesn't want your qualities, she wants different qualities.

Survival of the Fittest

Maybe this theory explains the whole "woman thing" that I don't understand.

Biologically speaking, humans need diversity. The reason we have lasted this long and gotten this ubiquitous is that we have become expert at mixing characteristics to create a hearty gene pool. It is unacceptable to take from only one set of characteristics, because, as conditions change, those characteristics may become unfavorable. She's just trying to ensure that humans continue to be the dominant species on the planet for the next billion or so years.

I don't think that I buy any of these theories 100%. The real answer is probably a combination of these things and other things I've never considered.

Good luck finding out.

Find Your Opposite

In the meantime, why don't you find your opposite and create some attraction of your own?

– Mo

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