Dear Lotte,

Absolutely you can. You just have to find the right guy. It may be tough, but he is out there waiting for you.

My current girlfriend was a virgin (I sure the hell wasn't) and I respected her for that. We started slow, and eventually there are plenty other things you can do without having sex.

Wait for the Right Guy

He may NOT be the right guy – she sounds nervous about him.

I think that if this is how you think, then you should definitely wait until you get married or at least wait until you are with the right guy for a while. Just be upfront with the guy from the beginning.

Don't Be an Object

I do agree that if he isn't willing to respect her boundaries and her decisions, then he's more into himself than he is into her.

If he has a problem with that then he will go elsewhere. And who needs that, anyway? Just think about it, why would you want to be with a guy that is not going to like you as much if you are not having sex? That means you are an object to him.

Wait for the right guy that will respect you and will like you for your company not for your sex. It is a plus and may be a great addition to your relationship one day.

But for now, my little Belgian princess, stay the way you are because I respect you for it and so will some lucky guy.

Good look!!!!!!!!!!!!

– Jimmy