Doc,

First things first:

The First Six Weeks

I agree – no realtionship remains the same as when it first started.

Take a second and think back to how you felt about your wife six weeks into your relationship. Everything was wonderful and exciting, wasn't it? You probably felt much the same then as you do with your Internet lover now.

Your Undeveloped Relationship

We're using six weeks as the comparison, because that's probably how developed your relationship really is. If you saw each other every day, and actually spent time with each other, that would be a different story.

Even if you HAD physically dated for six months, what is that compared to seven years?

You're Being Selfish

You are being completely selfish and ridiculous toying around with this woman. What were your intentions when you proposed to your wife? To be a good and faithful husband until "death do us part", or until "some girl bats an eye at me over the internet"? Get a spine.

What Will You Tell Your Child?

What are you going to do when you leave your wife for this fantasy (NOT real) lover and she turns out to be very difficult to live with? How are you going to explain to the mother of your child that you test-drove the Corvette, and now want the station wagon back? How are you going to tell your child that you left his/her mother for someone who said they could treat you better in bed and made you laugh in VIRTUAL-reality?

What Will Others Think?

Do you realize how shallow you sound? You need to take a good look at yourself in the mirror, pal. Do you like what you see? If your grandparents were in the room, would they be proud of you on this? How about your father? Or mother? We hardly think so.

You'll Be a Failure

You say you are excited about becoming a father. You are setting yourself up to enjoy fatherhood every other weekend and some holidays. That's after you lose a year or two during long and arduous custody battles.

You are in for a whole bag full of failure. Instead of being the good husband and father, you are going to be a failure of a husband, a dead-beat dad, alone and single. The chances of you and this Internet fling working are so slim it's mind-boggling.

Throwing Away Your Family for Unreality

We just can't believe that you are actually thinking about throwing your family away for someone who helps you masturbate better and can type some fancy things. Reality is much different than cyber-sex. For all you know, her butt could be covered in gigantic boils. How sexy is that?

You know, it's a LOT easier to be nice when you're typing back and forth, but human interaction is completely different. You aren't necessarily getting her initial reaction – you may have ticked her off many times, but she composed herself and wrote nice replies because she's trying to bait you away from your wife.

She's a Home-wrecker

Before you accuse her, consider that he may not have even TOLD her he's married.

What kind of person is SHE for this? She's already proven she has no respect for marriage and is perfectly happy with the idea of being a home-wrecker. So do you think you'd marry this girl? Do you really think she'll trust you not to leave HER for someone else? It's not like you're proving what a good and loyal husband you are, after all.

Why should she trust you? Should you trust her? No way. She's already proven she doesn't think marriage is a sacred institution. She'll tramp all over your hypothetical marriage just as she's tramping on your real marriage.
Even if it was just you and your wife, this would be wrong.

This Is Unpardonably Wrong

However, this is you, your wife, and your baby, and it is unpardonably wrong. You should have thought about commitment and responsibility a lot harder before you got married and decided to bring a new life into this world.

Cancel Your Internet Access

That's a bit extreme. He actually needs counseling.

We think this should be the last thing you EVER read on the Internet. Rip the phone cords out of the wall if you have to. You don't owe this cyber-fling anything. You DO owe your wife. She's stood by you for seven years and now she's carrying your child. She deserves better. Cancel your Internet access and don't ever look back. It is the right thing to do, and you know it.

Don't Do Anything Until Your Child Is Born

It's not his child he should meet to decide. He needs to meet cybergal to decide.

If you can't do that, then don't you dare do anything until that beautiful baby is born. Look into your son's or daughter's eyes and say "You are not worth more than a couple days a month to me. My Internet fling is much more important than you."

When that baby comes out you ARE going to feel true love like you have never felt before. It will be the first time in your life that you, no matter how selfish you are, actually become unquestionably second to someone else. You can't imagine it now, but when your son or daughter looks at you the first time, you will know in your heart that you would give your life for that helpless little baby without ever thinking about it.

You are acting like an adolescent. Grow up. Take responsibility and do the right thing.

– Brad & Heather