Dear Katie-

You Want Him BECAUSE He's with Your Sister

I agree. Her contempt for her sister bothers me.

It is obvious that you have stong feelings regarding your sister, and I'm afraid that this relationship manifestation with Willie is just a reaction to your sister.

The first thing you should ask yourself is, "Why would I want to be with someone who is still with my sister?" Because that is indeed the question.

He Should Have Dumped Her

How can Willie be the right person for you if he is still with your sister? If he was such a great guy, and he felt the same way for you as you say you do for him, then he would have dumped your sister – regardless of whether or not they were having sex.

I'm sure Willie is a great guy. He's just not a great guy for you. And he may be a great deal TOO good for your sister, but I'd bet anything that if you had met Willie outside of this relationship he's having with your sister, you wouldn't like him nearly as much.

There are definite issues at stake here with your sister and your self confidence.

Perhaps instead of blaming her sister for HER problems, she should take a look at herself first!

You ask yourself why she can have someone as great as Willie when you don't have anyone.

He's Not That Great

Well, guess what? He's not that great if he's still with her.

You're right.She needs to deal with her sister. Family is the most important.

You don't have to treat Willie meanly. I suggest dealing with your sister and your issues, be friendly with Willie, but do not date him. Why would you want a guy who has been with your sister?

Go out, find an actual nice guy who isn't interested in Marie, look back on this in 2 years and laugh.

Sincerely,
– Cassandra