|
Turtle Girl,
Try It and See
Try going out with Mark and see what happens with your ex. He shouldn't
make such a huge deal out of you going out with his friend only
once. If he does have a big problem with it, he's probably going
to make it obvious to the two of you that he doesn't like it.
He'll Be Mad
And with you saying you don't like people being mad at you, your
ex will probably be mad. As a guy, I know it is hard to see a girl
you like or dated go out with someone that you are friends with,
especially a close friend.
You say you just want to date this new guy a couple times, but
what if something more happens? What if you really like this guy?
You could have a great relationship with him. But keep in mind,
whether you do or don't get closer to him, it sounds that you are
tight enough with him that you are creating some conflict with your
ex.
New Guy Won't Give Up His Friend for You
Chances are this new guy isn't going to be willing to give up his
friendship with your ex, or you for the other person. Consequently,
it will often be difficult to be with one without the other getting
jealous.
You Might Miss Out
Basically, I do not have any real advice, just some thoughts you
should think about. By dating this new guy, you will put your friendship
with your ex on the rocks. But by doing nothing about this new guy
for the sake of saving your good terms with both, you could be missing
out on a good guy. The latter decision is easier, but you could
really miss out.
Your Ex Will Get Over It
If I was in your situation, I would probably try this new person
out and if conflict resulted, I would give the ex a long talk about
how I want to date others. If he is understanding, he'll let it
go. But if he's jealous and controlling, he'll hold it against both
of you, but he would probably get over it. Good luck.
– Carl
|
