Dear Lovetorn,

I Hope You Called It Off

This message is probably late, but I hope you called off the wedding. I don't think that second thoughts should be ignored, particularly the second time around.

Your Doubts Are Realistic

Your doubts are realistic. You were burned badly before and things are moving fast. Slow them down. If this guy is so great and marriage is a possibility, then what's the rush? Why do you feel compelled to be married at this point?

He Won't Talk About Your Concerns

I'm also bothered by the fact that he won't talk about your concerns. The key to a successful relationship, in my opinion, is open and honest communication. How honest can you be if he is not open to listening to your deep concerns?

It's Worth Losing the Deposits

Believe me, it's worth losing the wedding deposits for the real value of being sure that this life partner is really that – your partner for life!

Good luck,
– Charlie