Should you grab your hat and leave, or stick around?

I agree with your responses for the most part.

Fantasies are just that...fantasies.

They do not mean that someone is necessarily going to act out on them. Many men have these types of fantasies about young girls. Does that mean they are not good men? No.

On the other hand, I can understand her hestitancy to bring children around this man when he is asking her to dress up like one!

The answer is communication. Tell him her concerns and listen to her instincts when he responds.

If there is something that doesn't feel right, she should grab her hat and check out.

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