Chelsea, just because the guy has a fantasy, does not make him some sort of deviant.

We all have fantasies, and I personally think it's good Sarah's boyfriend feels confident and secure enough in the relationship to tell her what he wants.

A Big Leap Between Fantasy and Pedophilia

I agree with Sarah that if this is something that makes her uncomfortable, she needs to let him know (as she did). But going from a fantasy to accusing him of being a rapist and pedophile is quite a leap. Again, we all have fantasies, and some can be objectionable to some people.

Plain vanilla, missionary sex with the lights out can get quite boring after a short while, and if you find a partner willing to play with you and keep things vibrant, you should be happy. Some people like to be tickled with feathers. Does that mean they are going to break into the zoo and get all the ostriches pregnant? This is a preposterous assumption.

Don't Make Judgements on a Fantasy

You are making judgements on the basis of what may just be a healthy fantasy. While I suggest Sarah talk to her boyfriend, just so she can allay her own discomfort about his actual preferences, I am not inclined to tar and feather him just yet.

Fantasies are natural, fun and mostly harmless, so don't convict him of rape just yet!

– Luthien