Don't encourage her paranoia; and don't encourage her to live a boring "simple" life; let her live a little with a guy who cares about her.

Hold on a second – this is absurd, "find a simpler relationship"? What's the fun ion a boring relationship? Is there anything wrong with living a little?

She shouldn't leave him just because she's paranoid. How does she know that he "still wants little girls, checks out little girls" or how does she know that he ever did if you don't talk about it?

It's a FANTASY, its not real, and if she dumps him without even asking him about it then she's making a big mistake.

You're Wrong To Tell Her To Leave

You are quite right in saying that there's nothing wrong with his behavior. However you are quite wrong when you tell her to leave her boyfriend. If he actually would have sex with a 15 year old then maybe they have problems (major problems), but I don't think he would.
She's been with this guy for 15 months; is it really smart to leave him just because of things that she thinks that maybe he might be considering doing? She needs to get over her paranoia and talk to him about it, I mean I think that someone who she's considering as the father of her children deserves a little more respect than that.

He's Chosen Her Over Little Girls

Get it straight: if he wanted to be having sex with little girls, he wouldn't be with her, because he has chosen to stay with her he obviously cares for her and values being with her over any another desire. Remember that it's HER that he wants to have sex with, its HER that he's chosen to be with, should she really throw away what could be love because of something as trivial as this?

Break Out the Handcuffs

And perhaps she should indulge his fantasies every once and a while; there's nothing wrong with going beyond boring conservative missionary style sex, and allowing your relationship a little freedom. Maybe she should share some of her fantasies, break out the handcuffs, or silk scarves, or chocolate sauce, or vibrators, or blindfolds, or whatever it is that turns her on. Maybe if she would loosen up a little they would be more free to be open to each other about their emotions.

Don't Ruin It Over a Trivial Fantasy

But for God's sake don't ruin what should like a wonderful healthy relationship over something as trivial as a fantasy. And certainly don't tell her to find a "simpler" relationship. I mean really; what would you like her to do: search out men who are repressed and unable to communicate their feelings?

And have a relationship and a sex life about as exciting as bologna sandwiches. That certainly would be "simpler," but would it really be a good idea?

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