Carmela, Girl!

Don't be discouraged. Believe me!

Teen Relationships Don't Last

I had a similar problem when I was your age. I had a real hard time finding a boyfriend or even having a guy that liked me! I would walk around moping with my head down in high school wishing I had a boyfriend like the other girls in my grade.

Perhaps that's part of her problem – the IDEA that at such a young age, relationships should last forever.

Sure, it really sucks seeing your girlfriends holding hands with their boyfriends, but nine times out of ten, relationships at that age DO NOT last forever!

A Foundation on Friendship

I had to venture out into the world before I could discover what qualities I would like in a man. The key is forming good friendships with a person first (which you have been doing!) Keep on doing that! A friendship is a great foundation for a realtionship.

Get To Know Yourself

I agree. She seems to have a self-esteem problem.

In order to find that right "chemistry" between you and another, learn how to like yourself first. If you don't like yourself, how can you like somebody else? Get to know yourself and know what makes you happy as an individual.

When that shines through, all different sorts of people will notice that and take that in to account. You might have to date numerous people until you find the "right one" for you, but the main point is that you WILL find that person!

Guys Should Come Last

I agree. Her instincts are telling her that she's NOT READY.

Don't be in a hurry. Have fun at your age. Concentrate on putting YOU first in this stage of the game. Flirt, go to concerts, go shopping, go out with your friends. Having a guy in your life at 17 should be one of the last things on your list!!! Just experiment with all sorts of different guys to find the qualities you value the most!

Don't give up! Just remember to have fun and like yourself!

– Noey