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Dear Panel,
My name is Brandan. I'm a 20-year-old
college student going into my junior year. My girlfriend is 16
and going into her junior year of high school.
I hope you don't mind a long story,
because you did ask for it.
We Were Camp Couselors
I met her three months ago at my
summer job as a camp counselor. It's a great job and all, I love
the kids and it's just plain fun, but I never thought I'd find
the girl of my dreams. She was a junior counselor, serving community
service for school credit, she has a smile that can talk to you
and this charisma that could attract anyone, definitely me!
I knew that she was younger, but
there was just something about her that made me not even think
about it. We slowly got to meet each other, and do I ever mean
slowly; this is my fault because I'm definitely a shy guy. We
started off making silly faces at each other which finally ended
up to talking and finally ended up in a horse-play form of flirting.
Well, being the shy guy that I am, she finally ended up calling
me and what a great conversation we had, I couldn't wait for the
next, and then the next and so on. I found myself with butterflies
each time I talked to her, every conversation got better and better,
we quickly learned a lot about each other.
We surprisingly have many of the
same likes and dislikes, I also found that she was definitely
the only girl that I knew that I could talk to about anything
and it was at this point I think I was falling for her.
The Sweetest Kiss
Well, to cut to the chase, one
day of horsing around in a room by ourselves ended up turning
into the sweetest first kiss I'd ever had – everything seemed
so perfect, both of us stuck with big red smiles on our faces.
I seriously thought that my knees were going to give just with
a kiss.
Her Mom Followed Us
After that, of course, we started
going out, until one day her mother followed her to the movies
to see just who she was going out with.
That was over 2 weeks ago, and
I haven't seen her since.
Her parents didn't at all approve
of her dating someone 4 years older. Her mom said that all guys
that age are the same and that she didn't want her talking to
me anymore. I really don't blame her, so I can't be mad –
most guys my age are idiots. I'm also a resident assistant at
the school I attend, and I can first-hand agree with her mother.
She's the One for Me
That was the end of me seeing her,
but we still talk (parents have to go to work sometime, thank
god).
Now I've been dating her almost a month. I know that she's the
one for me. Most may not think that way in only a month, but as
each day passes that I don't see her, I grow to love her more
and more. She's not just my girlfriend she is my best friend –
we can talk about anything, we joke about everything, we think
alike and can even finish each other's sentences – everything
is so perfect.
I Was Afraid of Love
I've always been afraid of relationships,
afraid of love, afraid of talking about the future with a girl.
I guess that is what some ex's can do to you.
Our Future Together
But it is so easy with my girlfriend
– everything is – I find myself doing things I've never
done before, writing long letters and staying on the phone for
hours. I can't even look at a real estate magazine without thinking
of a house we might share in the future or walk by some bridal
shop without the thought of seeing her in one of them beautiful
white dresses one day. There isn't a moment in the day when I
don't think about her, and not a time I think about the future
which she isn't a part of. I can honestly say this will last a
long time and hope it lasts forever.
They Don't Want To Meet Me
Now all we have to do is work on
her parents, I wish they would give me a chance but at this point,
they don't even want to meet me.
I'm hoping that it will be soon,
but am in no real rush. "Good things come to those who wait
" is what everyone always says, so here I am waiting and
have no plans on ever giving up.
I've never been happier, and she's
definitely the reason. We might not see each other, but we still
have each other, and that's what counts. We keep telling each
other when we get through this, the rest will be easy.
What else can I say? She's the
love of my life.
Well there it is, it's long but
you get what you ask for.
–
Brandan
Male, age
20, Florida
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