Dear Panel,

I am a 20 year old guy. I am very loyal and firmly rooted in Christ. I tend to fall in love fast, and stay a long time regardless of what happens.

Her Sheltered Upbringing

Suzy is a very strong Christian as well – she is 21. She is also very naive due to her very sheltered upbringing. She has never really gotten in trouble, but she also is very easy to walk all over due to her weakness in standing up for herself.

Ryanne Has a Rough Past

Ryanne, a former female friend of the both of us, is very key to the story. She has a very rough past. She was sexually abused by her babysitter when she was younger. She also got assaulted in college. She has issues with suicide and has attempted it before. She is a very compulsive liar and everytime she gets close to someone, they tend to pull away from her when her past is revealed.

We Met at a Frat Party

Suzy and I met at a place where neither of us would normally go – a frat party. It was very ironic, almost like it was meant to happen. I had just sworn off relationships that night and was going to start a little journey being single and having fun. She was doing the same. We met, and it didn't take long for the two of us to be very closely connected. She is the first person I have kissed or done anything physical with on the first night.

No Sex Until Marriage

Well, our relationship was very good all throughout the ten months it lasted. We shared many firsts with each other – she was the first person I fell in love with – and the first I have truly enjoyed sharing life with. We never had sex or anything like that due to our morals on no sex until marriage.

Her Previous Sexual Acts with Ryanne Were a Secret

Things were going great with us untill May. This is when I found out that she was holding a secret from me. Her and Ryanne had been committing sexual acts with each other. I later found out that it had started before I met her, and Ryanne was the initiator of it all. Well, I chose to stick by her and try to make it work. I thought that she was manipulated and never could see Suzy as being a lesbian.

We Are Taking a Break from Each Other

Well, it is now over with Suzy. We decided to take a break to find ourselves and deal with the past if we can. I don't know if I can. I want to believe her, but she has broken my trust. How can I ever regain that, or is it even possible? Is it true what they say that "Once a cheater, always a cheater"? Was she truly manipulated?

Should I just move on and chalk it up to a good way to learn? Please help. I have no where to turn, and I need to resolve this one.

What can I do to trust again?

– Wishfully Waiting

Male, age 20, USA

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