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Didn't do anything wrong? Since when is cheating not wrong?
She completely broke his trust.
I don't really care if the person Suzy fooled around with was a
guy, a girl or an alien – anything sexual or romantic with
another person when you are in a committed monogamous relationship
qualifies as cheating, to me.
She needs to figure herself out.
Wishful, whatever is going on in your girlfriend's head is hers
to deal with. And it sounds as if she isn't really sure what she
wants. Lesbian or not, unless she was forcibly raped (an entirely
difference discussion) then she broke your trust.
You asked if she was coerced; there is a line there. It's called
rape. Rape means sexual conduct against your will. Coercion still
implies that she was willing to do the things that she did. You
need to be sure that you understand that difference; if she was
"convinced" by this other girl to do these things, she
still made the decision on her own merit.
Make your own choices
Your (ex) girlfriend needs to adjust her own life, but in the meantime,
you need to make some choices for yourself given what you do know.
You know she cheated on you. You know that it was with a woman.
For you, given the facts, decide what you want AS THINGS STAND NOW.
Not a "what if", not a "If she changes this..."...as
they stand right now. Can you be with her as she is now? Can you
trust her as she is now? Can you be happy as things are right now?
That's what you should be asking yourself. The What If's usually
don't happen. Stick with the "Right now's."
– Jeannie
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