Dear Enrico,

You're Both Vulnerable

They may be vulnerable, but they're also using each other to get over their ex's. They're mutual users.

You and your roommate are both at very vulnerable points in your life, both having engagements that dissolved recently, and that vulnerability can lead to situations where you become too eager to enter into a new relationship before you are actually ready to begin again. Invariably, these relationships end in disaster, as the desire for each other is unmasked as a desire to just have somebody – anybody – in their lives.

Build a Foundation

That in mind, I think it is very wise on the part of your roommate to proceed with caution, building upon what sounds like a solid foundation of communication when the time is right, and not a moment before. Even if you two are soulmates, getting into a relationship at the wrong time could prevent it from ever taking off like it should.

Both Find New Roommates

But, I know the situation is not easy for you: you're sure and she's not; living together doesn't make the situation any easier. If you're really positive that she might be "the one," but she needs some time and space, and the opportunity to see others, it might be wise for both of you to find new roommates, so as to spare you the torment of having to take messages for her from other guys.

Unavailability Increases Your Appeal

He needs to take time to get divorced before he dates others.

If you want to play a little hardball, you can do some dating of your own... maybe the effect of her picking up the phone, only to have a girl ask for you might have the same effect her calls have had on you... there's nothing like the threat of unavailability that increases your appeal.

Rely on Communication

You can take or leave the two options I've presented above, but if there's one thing I can say for sure, it is to rely on that excellent communication that you two have (it's something a vast majority of relationships critically lack), don't appear too needy or overeager, and don't pressure her to make a decision, because it will just send her running in the opposite direction.

The Truth Will Come To Light

When will they know if it's real? 3- 6 months? He doesn't know WHEN she'll make a decision.

You two are asking yourselves and each other the right questions... make sure you search for answers that are truly right, and if your attraction for each other is real and true, that truth will come eventually come to light.

Good luck to you both, wherever your hearts may lead you.

– Shaggy