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Dear T-dub,
Listen, Love
When you argue, LISTEN, do not formulate your response as they
speak.
When they annoy you, think about all the things you do to annoy
them, and try not to sweat the small stuff.
When you love, love unconditionally, try not to set standards no
mortal could live up to.
Empathize, Touch
Do not try to understand, instead, strive to emphathize.
Touch as often as possible, the lightest touch can communicate
the deepest feeling.
When your lover tells you about their day, set aside all else,
look into their eyes, and listen.
Don't Shame Your Partner
In all things, act in the best interest of your partner, try not
to do things that would hurt, shame, insult, or injure your love
if they were standing right next to you.
Don't Lose Yourself
Do not lose yourself in your quest to please your mate, remember
that they were attracted to you as you were, not as you feel they
need you to be.
Keep in mind that all material things will change in value and
quantity as life goes on, inconsistent things are not worth arguing
over.
When you feel like giving up, when you feel that everything you
do is wrong, when you are misunderstood, confused, lost or lonely,
remember that you are not alone, that if given a chance your lover
will find you, help you to understand, and strive to understand
you in return.
Trust
Trust is a delicate thing, it binds us to one another with strands
of truth and honesty. Remember that individually this is nothing,
but on the whole it is the most powerful bond in the world. Know
also, that to break one strand weakens the bond, and you must be
careful of the domino effect.
Honesty
Lying. Lying is a touchy subject, some would say that they lie
to protect their lover from things that may hurt them, but I personally
always feel more hurt and betrayed when I discover the truth.
I strive to be honest in all things,
- It conveys my trust in my partner,
- It lifts sometimes great weights from my heart,
- I never have to worry about being "found out",
- Perhaps most importantly, I know there is one person outside
myself who knows all about me, and having that means never having
to be alone.
There is so much more than this to relationships, but each is as
individual and unique as the people in it. There are good ones,
there are bad ones, they are as varied as snowflakes.
YOU Define a Relationship
I guess the important thing to remember is that a good relationship
is not defined by the magazines, the self-help books, your friends,
or even your family. It's defined by you, and you choose to make
it or break it by your actions while you're in it.
– Saibhin
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