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Dear NS,
Well, you are completely correct – this is a control thing.
He's Using Your Desire for a Friendship To Manipulate You
He wants to have sex with you, you seem to not want to just have
sex with him. He is forcing you to do something that you don't want
to do. He is using the fact that "you really connect as friends"
to force and manipulate you into having sex with him.
Purely Sexual Relationships Must Be Consensual
While I have no problem with purely sexual relationships, they
only work if consensual – in other words, they only work if
all either party wants is sex, and this clearly isn't the case.
You want an actual relationship, and he wants to control you and
f--- you (and yes, I use that word deliberately, that's what he's
doing). Right now you're letting him have what he wants.
End It Now
You need to end this and you need to end it now. This guy is dirt,
you will eventually get over him, but it will take time; however
the process of getting over him cannot start until you stop letting
him manipulate you.
Hard in the Short Term, Better in the Long Run
You need to make a choice: do you want to stay in a bad situation
that will only get worse, not better, or do you want to make the
right choice, and do what's hard in the short term but better in
the long run and dump this jerk?
– Rick
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