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Dear Damned Confused in Dakota,
Sounds like your girlfriend is using alcohol as an excuse for her
flirtatious manner.
Mistakes are made when people are drunk. But mistakes are something
you learn from – not do constantly.
She Refuses To Change
In my opinion, your girlfriend could change, but refuses to do
so. So you have 2 options:
Leave Her...
The first option is to leave her. If you really can't handle the
situation, then there is no point in trying to get over your jealously.
It is there for a reason. You can't change a person.
...Or Accept Her
The second option is to accept her the way she is. Like I said
earlier: you can't change her. Either get over it, or accept it.
And unfortunately if you don't find a way to overcome your jealousy,
she will leave you.
Ask her this: how would she feel if you acted the way she
does while drinking?!? Would it make her jealous, too?!? If it does,
then maybe you two can come up with a compromise. If it doesn't,
then you are definitely in trouble!
She's the Flirty Type, You're the Jealous Type
Some people just can't help who they are.
She's the flirtatious kind and maybe you're the jealous kind.
Now you have to figure out if those two characteristics can mesh
well in your relationship. Unfortunately, the only way for that
to happen is one of you will have to sacrifice a natural instinct.
If you really love this girl and she isn't willing to change, you've
got to bite your tongue.
I really think you can find a girl that isn't as complicated as
this, but only you can make that choice.
Hope I've helped,
– Mel
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