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Reader Magenta Responds:
I agree.
I'm saddened that 3 out of the 4 gave such negative answers
to this question. I appreciate the end of Survivor's response.
I believe that it's possible, but really, really hard.
Several Bad Breakups
I dated someone off and on for 3 years before it started
being a solid relationship. We had two or three really bad
breakups, usually me doing the breaking up.
Suddenly I understood what he meant to me, and wanted to
get back together – almost too late, since he was starting
to pursue a new interest. Everyone told me not to do it
– everyone told him to get away from me.
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This is wonderfully expressed. It gives
hope. People do mature and learn to be better partners,
persons.
– Indigo
Female, age 24
San Francisco, CA
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My major issues were communication and personality conflicts,
which I thought were unsolvable issues. But eventually I
realized it was as much my fault as it was his – that
I had to initiate communication and I had to be flexible
in allowing him to be a part of my life.
We've been going out officially for 8 months now, and we've
gone through a lot, only to have our relationship get stronger.
So my advice to anyone reevaluating a breakup – if
you honestly believe that you can make a serious change,
it is well worth it.
– Magenta
Female, age 21, USA
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