Dear N,

What WILL you accept?

You Don't Have To Love Every Wonderful Person

You do not have to love someone in a romantic way because that someone is a wonderful person. Sometimes someone can be the smartest, most wonderful person in the world, and just because she's one or two hundred pounds overweight, I might choose to not fall in love with her.

You can't learn to be sexually attractive, but you CAN learn to be cool.

Sexual attractiveness is one reason for non-compatibility, but there are a whole list of others. Money is one, and it sounds like you may have some money issues. Fashion – well, I'll leave that for later.

But no, you do not have to love in a romantic way every wonderful person.

No One Is Perfect

OK, now it's later. Let's get back to that fashion thing. Although you don't have to love every wonderful person, you certainly are not going to find that PERFECT wonderful person? And why? Let's all say this together, "Because YOU are not perfect".

You Could End Up Lonely and Old

Don't get sarcastic. You have a right to ask for your desires.

Any relationship is going to take a certain amount of compromise. If you're not willing to overlook something like fashion (or dress him yourself), then don't worry about it and just keep on looking until you're as old as I am.

Otherwise, start thinking about what you will accept.

– Lefty