Dear Spinster,

It's Not OK To Be Alone

I'd like to give you those tips about how being single is OK, but that's not what you're asking. You're asking to let you know that "being alone" is OK That is different.

Being alone is OK if you're happy.

And it's not OK.

You Don't Mention Friends

People are social animals. Although there is a wide range of behavior, most people like being with other people and socializing. You do not mention friends in your writings, nor do you sound happy.

Don't Be Bitter; Start with Friendships

I would guess that you would be happier with friends, and probably because society has conditioned us, with a very close friend who is a significant other. Being bitter about your current plight might affect your relationships, and not having a support group might also affect you.

I may be off base if indeed you have many friends, and if they are indeed close to you, but what I would suggest is that you first invest effort in meeting with people of common interests, and developing and cultivating friendships, possibly without the pressure of being romantic.

Read Some Books

Or you might make a list of all the great books you've never read and start in.

– Lefty