Dear Confused About Mindgames,

Going Beyond Flirting

Hmm... seems to me the question is more about how to bring things beyond flirting.

Flirting is a good place to start when trying to get attention of the opposite sex, but do it too much and you just may end up being "the flirty girl".

This seems to have already happened, though. If this guy you like is simply playing off your flirtyness, there's still a pretty good chance he wouldn't mind taking it further.

Flirting Can Be Playful

Flirtyness though can also simply cause people to be more playful without the intent or desire for a relationship. In my own experience, I play-flirt with many of the girls I know, but I've never considered a relationship with any of them (well, at least not for long). It just becomes a part of what we do around each other.

Push the Envelope

I agree – sometimes you just go for it.

In your case, that seems to be just the worst thing. If you like this guy and want to take things beyond playfulness and into some more serious fooling around, I suggest you push the envelope of what you do. If he backs off and gets scared, chances are you've gone beyond playful and he wasn't prepared for it and maybe didn't want it. It could also mean he's not sure if you're still flirting and wants to check.

At this point you lay it out to him. Plain and simple.

Blurry Relationship

If, however, he doesn't back off and just keeps going, you could have a lot of fun – but the relationship thing would become really blurry and you still wouldn't have a huge chance of knowing if "what you do together" changes from flirting to noncommittal make out. That's why I would like to point out the old tried and true – if not most frightening – method: talk to him.

Ask Him

I know that's a really roundabout way of saying it, but talking to him is probably the most direct way. So to answer your question "How do I know if he likes me?" my answer is: ASK.

Don't Wait

No, she should just wait for him to let her know.

Waiting won't get you anywhere, and eventually you may just wait too long and see the person you like get taken by someone else and that's when the pain really starts! Not knowing is one thing, but knowing and not having a chance anymore is the pits!

Take it from me! I've out waited out too many of my chances.

– Buddy