Dear Virginia,

If you don't have trust, you don't have anything.

He's Done What You've Asked

But that's the problem. She has reason to be nervous if SHE is the only reason he hasn't seen his ex.

But it doesn't sound like the problem is with your boyfriend. From your question, it sounds as if he has done everything you have asked of him. He seems to have come to the realization that his ex-girlfriend was not the right one, he has not met up with her, and has respected your wishes by not doing so.

The person you need to trust is yourself. Your friend is right – sometimes an ex can cause problems. And you are right, they will inevitably meet again one day.

Focus on Your Current Relationship, Not His Old One

I'm not so sure. He still has feelings for her.

This DOESN'T mean that he's going to jump into bed with his ex-girlfriend. You need to trust yourself and your feelings for your boyfriend. Focus your energies on your current relationship, not on his old one.

Ask Yourself Why You're Scared

Also ask yourself why you are so scared of his ex-girlfriend coming into the picture. Is it loss of control of the situation, fear of being by yourself, fear that his feelings don't go as deep as yours?

Let Go of His Past

Trust your feelings, but trust yourself enough to know that you can move forward with your boyfriend if the both of you let go of his past. Let the fact that only the two of you have shared some special moments together be the building blocks for more moments and a great relationship to come.

Good luck,

– Colleen