First of all buddy,

I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU'RE FEELING!!!!

Girls Also Fear Commitment

Secondly, I think a lot of people (girls too, not just guys) fear commitment so bad it transcends the normal definition of fear.

I've been dating girls and felt sick to my stomach several times – all because I realized that she liked me and wanted to hang out with me. Once I figured that part out, it was a matter of deciding if I liked her enough to tell her. One time I did, and she was more than willing to help me work through it. We broke eventually broke up, but that's another story, he he.

Don't Tell Her at First

There's nothing wrong with telling her. Trust me – every girl thinks she can change you.

Well, you have the hardest part figured out. You are afraid of commitment. Do you tell the girl or not? Seeing how the girl may not take it too well, it might not be a good thing at first.

Don't Worry About Tomorrow

Just take it slow. Don't go out with a girl for a few weeks and start thinking about sizing her finger for a ring. Enjoy yourself and her company. Don't worry about the next week, or month – just let go and think about anything. That's my problem: I'm always worried about tomorrow. I can't seem to have fun with her since I'm constantly thinking.

You Haven't Met the One Who'll Knock Your Socks Off

But that's his problem. He's expecting too much.

Also, have you ever considered you may have just not met the right girl? I mean the one that knocks your socks off every time you are with her? Maybe that has something to do with it. You may just be afraid of committing to something you don't really want to.

In other words, you get yourself into situations you can't get out of (without hurting her) so you figure you might as well take what you can get – and trust me dude, that's the wrong way to look at it. You start to avoid going out with her, dodging her phone calls, and just resenting her altogether. Been there, done that....

Okay, let's summarize: you asked if you should tell her that you're afraid of the big 'C' word. No. Not at first. Why? She may not even be thinking of that yet, so you may scare her off.

Stay with Her Until the Fear Sets In

But he feels fear after about three months. That's way too early to know if she's special.

Basically, just go with the relationship until you actually begin to feel the fear set in. If you think she may be something special, then feel her out. She might want to help you through it, or might take off – either way you'll know what kind of person she is. Maybe that's all you'd need to break that nasty feeling.

– Ren