Dear Extremely Confused,

For a junior in high school, I feel like you are dealing with a lot of things that are beyond your years. BUT given that you are already dealing with all of this, it is very important that these issues be addressed.

First, you are not a slut.

They Took Advantage of You

And in the process, she has made a name for herself.

These guys, it seems, have taken advantage of your naivete and inability to stick up for yourself. Other than your boyfriend T, not one of them has had enough respect for you to listen when you expressed concern, and instead they have continued to push and get out of the night what they intended to get.

Date Rape

I feel like as much as they have pushed though, you need to be more forceful and make sure that they understand that you do not want to have sex with them. I am not a lawyer but I would say that it sounds like you have experience a form,or close to it, of date rape. This is very serious and should not be taken lightly.

I hope that you have used protection in the past as you don't want to end up with a child, but more importantly you can contract a number of serious STDs if you are not using a condom, so make sure that you get yourself tested if this is the case.

Now, to address your main question about T:

He Seems To Love You

Bull – he just wants her for sex.

Given that you have been together on and off for two years, I would like to think that his love is genuine.

However, because it has been on and off, I would like to know what he has been up to during the "off periods." If during this time he has been sleeping around, maybe it has been his escape and way of getting what he "needed."

Considering that he only told you that he loves you 2 years later, it may have taken time for him to realize this and now he is acting on it maybe it is in fact genuine.

Have you guys spoken about things or do you just show him physcially what your limitations are? Communication must be key to your relationship and if it is missing then I would recommend that you start from there.

It sounds to me like maybe he does love you, but that doesn't mean that he doesn't also want sex.

You Don't Have To Sleep with Him

She isn't ready until she figures out what she wants.

Just remember that if you are not ready, then you don't have to sleep with him – end of story. If he can't respect this, then his love probably isn't genuine and maybe you should reconsider your whole relationship.

You are still young. Enjoy your youth and try not to let the pressure get to you.

– Foxy