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Dear Pepper,
You don't say how long you've known either of them, and it is
hard to choose for you without knowing more about you.
But here's an observation:
You Spent More Time Describing Justin
You seem to be able to sum up Rob in two sentences. Yet you seem
intrigued with knowing more about Justin and took the time to describe
him in several paragraphs. I don't think you are "done"
getting to know Justin yet.
Justin Might Open Up If You Stop Dating Rob
Is there a possibility that you can remain friends with Rob? Because
you genuinely seem to enjoy his company, but don't seem very committed
to a relationship with him in its current form.
Your relationship with Justin would change, too, if you end your
romantic relationship with Rob, and he may be more comfortable opening
up to you if he knows you will be around a little longer.
What do your instincts say? Also, what is your definition of long
term?
Don't Worry About the Long Term
I think rather than thinking about who you will be with in a year
or two, you should instead be thinking about who you want to invest
the time to get to know further. You are obviously not ready for
marriage yourself, so there is no reason to commit yourself (even
if it is only in your head) to a life long relationship when you
are only truly ready to think about the next several months.
– Judith
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