Pepper, Pepper, Pepper...

...you can't choose between guys.

I remember those good old days. However, now I am stuck with one – my husband. He will come up later.

BUT FIRST:

Guys You F@$k

There's a little saying that I have always had. It is true for both men and women:

There are the kinds of boys you f@$k and the kinds of boys you marry.

This may be too simplistic, but it's an easy way to divide up a big dating pool. Anyhow, this means that some guys just make better f@$ks, or dates – they are really hot, suave, usually are partiers, etc. They seem to charm the pants off of you and confuse every woman they come into contact with.

Guys You Marry

And then there are they guys that are sweet, cute, kind and considerate. These guys always seem to get the shaft because they are too much like a brother and a good friend. But these are the ones that make fantastic boyfriends, husbands and fathers. Not that the other ones don't, but your chances are better.

Justin Is the Marrying Kind

So, from your description, Rob fits into the first group that you would f@$k Justin into the second that you marry. I may be wrong, but it's my answer.

He Might Sit Back and Wait

Now about Justin being too hard to reach. I think you just described my husband. I have never for the life of me been able to get an easy answer out of him on what he wants or likes, EVER. It is like pulling teeth. But I learned that it is because he just doesn't voice his opinion and make the calls all the time. He likes to sit back and see what happens. Perhaps Justin is the same way.

That's Just Justin's Personality

I agree, but it's not her problem.

I don't think this is an emotional issue with him, I think it may just be personality. And if you are a fireball like I am, then that could be even more true. Some guys just don't know what they want. I'm not saying relationship-wise, but they don't know what they want or they don't care what they have for dinner. And it is difficult to get an answer from them and get to know what they like or want. Doesn't make them bad, just a personality trait.

Pick Justin

Not only that, but Justin will open up if she picks him and stops dating Rob.

So, the long and the short of it is, Pepper – if you want a long-term relationship and not a drunken, lady-lovin' party boy (and he's 30! GROW UP ALREADY, ROB!) and then give the sweeter, more submissive, emotional guy a chance. In the long run, they are more supportive and fun!

So pick Justin, get him really drunk, and then propose marriage. JUST KIDDING!

Good luck!

– Kalia