Butterfly,

Long Distance Relationships Are Fantasies

How cynical. There is no reason not to pursue love.

In general, I don't recommend that people have relationships which begin when they are geographically so far apart. Ultimately, they are more fantasy than reality. You wind up having a "relationship" with your idealized version of the other person, and not the real person.

If eventually the two people move geographically close to each other, reality puts an end to the fantasy, and quite often brings the relationship to an end. Much better to have a relationship with a real person in your own hometown, I always say.

You Must Tell Him

OK, honesty is important, but she should wait to tell him when she's comfortable.

Your medical condition doesn't change that dynamic. If you insist on going forward with it, however, you have to tell him about your health. Relationships are founded on honesty, and it's imperative that you are truthful with him on this ever-so-important detail, even if your condition cannot physically harm him.

I don't think you're being selfish by wanting to love and be loved. You're being human. Keeping your health condition to yourself would be selfish, however.

Let Him Decide

As long as you're being honest with him, you let him have the choice to deal with the situation as he sees fit – with the information he needs to make a good decision.

Good luck,

– Aaron