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Dear "Me...",
To me, 14 is way too young to be having sex. Once you have sex,
you will never be able to take that back. I think at 14 you are
too young to know if that is really what you want, but to each his
own. Having sex is a big deal, and a choice that every girl has
to make for herself.
Talk to an Adult About This
Now that you have made this decision you need to be responsible
about it. I really think you should talk to a trusted adult about
this, because they are older and can really help you out. It doesn't
have to be your parents, just anyone you feel comfortable talking
to.
See a Doctor
You also need to get yourself checked out by a doctor. I'm hoping
you used protection, but it's always good to be checked out. There
are clinics where it is free and confidential, and with the number
of teen pregnancies and STDs out there I think having a check-up
is the way to go.
Ask Him To Wait a Year
Now about the boy, I think you should talk to him
about where you two stand. Tell him how you feel, and about your
parents' dating rule and ask him if he will wait a year for you.
If he says yes, I think you might want to think before sleeping
with him again. You have only known him for three months, and if
he deserves your love, then he will want to wait too.
Don't Worry If He Rejects You
If he says "No", don't let yourself get bogged down by
one rejection. It happens to the best of us. It has
happened to me many times, and I'm only two years older than you.
You have your whole life ahead of you, with tons of new people to
meet, you wouldn't want to throw all that away.
Stop Obsessing
I think you might want to tone down your obsession a little bit.
Caring about someone and daydreaming about them is good and healthy.
But when you stop eating and lose interest in friends and other
activities it becomes an unhealthy obsession. Don't let yourself
lose interest in other things, you can think about him but if you
find yourself obsessing go and do something that doesn't have anything
do with him. You can't let one person be your whole life, because
then you lose your own identity.
Good luck!
Love,
– Annie
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