Dear Chrissy,

Get out. Get out now. RIGHT now.

Your life has been hijacked by this guy.

Manipulation and Abuse Is Unacceptable

I agree – his abuse will destroy her.

There is nothing wrong with dating an older man. However, this type of manipulative, abusive behavior is completely unacceptable in anyone. Marriage and love come in a lot of different packages, but this is horribly unhealthy for you.

If you are a practicing Catholic, make an exception because you cannot be with this man and have a healthy life.

Get Counseling

If you're seriously contemplating suicide, I urge you to get counseling and focus on yourself. You've got to ask questions as to how you got in this relationship in the first place.

Why does this type of relationship or man attract you? He takes your money and you see none of it? He doesn't even call now?

He's a Control Freak

I'm sure he seemed like Prince Charming, but lookit – the story about Prince Charming and Snow White doesn't talk about Charming losing his job job or being a control freak or fooling around with the peasant girls when he was roaming the countryside with the other knights.

Requirements for Being a Human Being

He's kind to strangers and those less fortunate. Well, that should be a general requirement for being human, not a noble trait, although heaven knows it is a rare commodity these days. He swept you off your feet. Terrific. But there's got to be more than the harp music and poetry to sustain a marriage. Respect, sustainable devotion and honesty just for the basics.

He's crusing on-line and claiming he's single? He's not single. He's your husband. Do you think someone who loves you and only you would be doing this?

Get a Divorce Despite the Catholic Church

I agree. She should definitely divorce him.

Chrissy, ask Eugene for a divorce or file papers. I know the Catholic Church says no, but you cannot continue to let yourself be used and hurt like this and God does not want this for you. You are 20 years old and have everything great in life waiting for you.

Older Guys Are Just as Messed Up as Younger Ones

Do not waste your time and energy on someone who treats you like his puppy. He's older and maybe you think that makes him smarter and suave. Well, it doesn't. Older guys are just as confused and mixed up and insecure as younger one. Chalk this up as an experience and move on. There ARE plenty of guys your age or older or younger who are looking for the right girl and not just a roll in the hay.

Lean on Family and Friends

Lean to your family and friends right now because that's where you'll find love and support that you need. Do not let this damage your dignity or self-image anymore than it already has. You got to believe that you are da bomb, baby, and I don't mean turn into a diva.

He is a thief. He has stolen a huge chunk of your life and your personality. You cannot let him continue.

You are a smart, wonderful person and you do not deserve this. Find the will in yourself to be strong, Chrissy, and take back your life. You can do it. I hope this helps in some way.

– Tommy D