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Something else that Apsara should honestly take into consideration:
Let's say that she and Mr. Older-Man decide to get married and have
a child.
Months and Years
There's a least a year for the divorce proceedings, 6 months for
a quick quiet, nice wedding, and at least 3 months of trying to
get pregnant (that's the average, of course there could be complications...)
and the 9 months for gestation (9 months and a week for first time
pregnancies.)
You're staring at a minimum of just under two and half years there.
That makes your boyfriend 46 (possibly 47).
Let's assume that things go just like that. Do you realize that
when your little bundle of joy is 10 years old, their daddy will
be 56/57 years old? People live longer these days, but let's admit
the truth: we slow down about 45-50.
Supporting a Teenager Alone
My point here is, with your boyfriend approaching 45, he will not
be young when the child is born. He will die before you; you may
be left with a teenager on your hands and no father figure to help
you with him/her/them(!)
Now, I know that I seem a little coldhearted by saying this. But
these are the practical matters that a person has to take into consideration.
Love, of course, transcends logical and practicality, but you still
have to think about this with your head.
I Dated a Man with a Heart Condition
Example: I dated a perfectly nice guy who would have made a wonderful
father and good husband and great provider. However, he had a serious
serious heart condition. And while I'm sure that we could have been
happy, all signs pointed to him leaving this world in his late 40's
early 50's, only 15 years away. I wasn't ready for children, and
the possiblity of my being left with young children was larger than
your normal statistics. I simply couldn't do that to me or to my
future children.
So, take all of this wonderful advice into consideration. Just
remember to temper a loving heart with a logical mind.
Lux et pax
– Jennae
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