Sabrina Answers:

Dear Apsara,

You are a busy woman. How do you find the time to be with him?

I understand your feeling of wanting a child. I have had that feeling many times myself. It absolutely drives you crazy because that's all you think about. It won't go away until you have a child.

You're at Different Levels

Hang on! She's not ready to have a child, either.

You are ready to have a child now, but your boyfriend is not. He may never be ready. You can either respect his wishes, continue to be with him, and might never have a child or you can move on and find someone who is on the same level as you are.

Your boyfriend is 22 years your elder and already has a child. He loves his daughter with all his heart, but he might not want to go through that experience again. A lot of men are like that. There are men out there who are ready to settle down and are looking for the right woman to have a family with.

Wait To See If He Changes

Waiting is a waste of her time. This guy is not even divorced.

I would not just leave him right away the moment he tells you he is not ready. I would stay with him for a little while and see if things change. I might even ask him if he is just not ready, or he does not wish for another child. If you still have the feeling to have a child and he is still not ready, then I would suggest moving on. But try to stay with him and see what comes of it.

You Will Be a Wonderful Mother

Keep this in mind: when it comes time for you to have the child, you might not be able to keep up all the good kind-hearted work you are doing. When the child is a little bit older, you can pick up right where you left off. Your child is going to have a wonderful mother. We need more kind-hearted people like you out there in the world teaching our children love and not hatred.

I am sure that you will feel when the time is right to make the right decision. There is always someone else out there in the world for you if you feel you haven't yet found your special someone.

Take care and good luck.

– Sabrina

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