|
Dear Tanya,
Your Bias
OK, first I have to say that even though I'm sure what you're writing
is filtered through your own biases, I'll work with what you give
me: This dude is [insert non offensive, near vulgar euphemism for
excrement here]. Kick his ass out of your sight. You don't need
someone to put you down and tell you that you don't measure up to
'the kind of girl he wants to marry'.
His Past Doesn't Justify His Behavior
As for the excuse that he was physically and verbally abused and
his mother being a casino junky, it dosn't excuse his behaviour.
People who use their parents mistreatment of them to justify mistreating
others – well, shouldn't. People may be a product of their
environment, but it still never gives a person to the right to treat
someone else as less.
As one of my profs once told me: "Persevere and kick ass."
Rise above what holds you down. I'm probably gonna catch some flak
for that as I've not lived his life, but I'm just supposed to give
my opinion.
More Than Simple Privacy
Now about Girl X from out East, normally I would say that talking
to a girl on the phone is fine and probably has no ulterior motives,
and it probably is, but that he's so secretive about it seems to
go beyond a simple privacy requirement. His mentioning that she
is the 'kind of girl he wants to marry' implies that you are not.
Find Someone Who Won't Mistreat You
I guess what I'm trying to say is find someone better. Someone
who won't mistreat you and constantly down grade you in comparison
to another. Someone who won't call you a slut, a whore, or 'impure'
for things he's done in forms far worse.
– Buddy
|
