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Dear Struggling,
Relationships are like applause: you need two hands to clap. Any
fewer, and all that is heard is the faint whoosh of a hand swishing
through the air. You may want to bring back the thunderous ovation
that was your relationship before, but your husband has got both
hands in his pocket.
You have every right to be concerned about your husband's side
relationship. It reeks of infidelity, whether you want to believe
it or not. The fact that he parades this relationship in front of
you compounds his insensitivity.
Why Do You Want To Save This Relationship?
So, my question is: why in the hell would you want to save a marriage
like this, one where there is little intimacy, no return of your
love, and infidelity to top it all off?
He is walking all over you. He carries on this relationship in
front of you because you let him get away with it. You should expect
to be treated with more dignity than that. But I would suspect that
your husband is incapable of treating anyone with the respect they
deserve.
Beyond Repair
Your marriage is beyond repair, and there's really no course of
action to take that will fix it. Try to work too hard on winning
him back, and he'll back away. Give him too much space, and withhold
the intimacy, and he'll just seek it elsewere.
Take the House
You're too good for this. Cut him loose, take the house, and find
a new man who will treat you like the human being you are.
– Shaggy
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