Dear Panel,

I am a 21-year-old student who has never been in a serious relationship before.

Frank is a 28-year-old guy who I know through mutual friends.

Frank has been showing an interest in me, that is I had dinner at his place and he's really easy to talk too. I like to be with him and I wouldn't mind if he kissed me or if he wanted more, and I think about him a lot.

Still, in my mind I have this idea I have to be crazy for him, madly in love with him, etc. and I am not. When I think of him I just think he's really sweet, easy to talk to and that I like to be with him. And I think of him a lot. I can't stop wondering if this is friendship and I just really want a boyfriend (haven't had one in a long time) or if this is the beginning of a serious relationship and I don't recognise it because I've never had one before.

I've Always Been Crazy for Bad Boys

I just had relationships with guys who I wasn't able to really talk to and who turned out to be jerks, but with whom I was crazily in love at first. It seems girls do prefer bad boys and that is something Frank certainly is not. Still, I feel I want to be with him.

Should we be friends or lovers?

Female, age 21, Europe

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