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Dear Lisa,
Missing Nothing But Drama
Do you know what you're missing when you get in a relationship
with a good guy? DRAMA. Nothing but DRAMA. If you feel that the
relationship isn't going anywhere because you're not chasing him
down or because he's not chasing you down and turning your entire
life upside down, then you're not truly comfortable with a peaceful,
harmonious relationship.
Here's how your question reads to me:
"Dear Panel - All of my previous relationships have
started out really racy with hunks that turned out to be jerks.
But this time I've met a guy, we're taking it slow, and he treats
me well. What on earth should I do?"
You Want Infatuation
I think you can answer that one, Lisa. You're still 21 and maybe
all you want right now is quick, infatuation-type relationships
to make you feel like you've been walked on for the next 10 years
before you get a clue. I am so happy that you have decided to take
a close look at this thing for what it sure enough is right now!
Sure, there should be some attraction between you and the guy.
Bad chemistry is bad chemistry whether the guy is good or bad. But
if you're looking for the excitement of the chase, you're looking
in the wrong direction.
Attracted To Mistreatment
Perhaps you need to spend more time with yourself and redefine
what attracts you to a person. If you're only attracted to dogs,
that should tell you something about what you seek for yourself
and what you feel you deserve. Do you deserve to be treated well
or do you deserve to be mistreated? Do you want to be in a relationship
where you are valued or do you want to be in a relationship where
you're constantly being disrespected?
Ask Yourself What You Really Want
I think you've got to ask yourself one big fat question: WHAT DO
YOU REALLY WANT? Make up a list of what you actually want (if you
even know what that is). And if you don't know, that's okay. You
can't know that until you know Lisa.
Peace and love!
– Sistergirl
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