Dear Brown Sugar,

Don't Call It Quits

Slow it down – but don't call it quits. Eeerrrrrt – just put your brakes on and see what happens naturally over time.

He Respects You

It sounds to me like Mr. Musician has a lot of respect for you. You two have a mutual respect – he's being honest and respectful of you as an individual and a woman – which is more than a lot of people in long-term relationships share.

His Confusion Is Confusing You

His honesty is confusing you. Let's see: he doesn't want a relationship because he's still healing from a past relationship, but he still desires you enough to be in your life. I think he's just honestly confused and not ready to begin again.

It sounds like he still hurts and your timing into coupledom was a tad too premature. Had you met him later, he may have worked through his hurt and been ready to begin – but meeting now and feeling such an undeniable vibrant mutual spark (while the visible burn from his past relationships fire are still healing) is too much for many of us to handle in any logical way.

Wait and See

Give him time and see what happens. I know that sounds impossible, but you can do it. Even if things don't work out and you don't reaquaint when the moment is better, you will be stronger for experiencing this test of yourself.

Focus on Yourself

Focus on yourself – your needs, wants – it sounds like you know what you want from a man and what you want for yourself.

You're Ready and He's Not

To me, it sounds like you are ready for a serious relationship in your life – even if it is not him – you will find the right man for you because you are ready to begin again.

Good Luck. I hope this helps you in some way.

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