Dear Panel,
I am a 34-year-old, single mother of one
child who is almost 3 years old. I have been divorced
for one year.
I met this man who is 40-years-old and
has three children who are 7,9 and 11. He is also divorced
and has been for three years.
His ex-wife has a boyfriend who basically
lives with her. His ex-girl friend wants nothing to
do with him and has told him so. She is actually getting
back with her ex-husband. This guy and I have been seeing
each other since the first of December, about 5 weeks
now.
He's a Great Father
I feel very attracted to him. He is the
type that is easy to fall in love with. He is a great
father and spends quality time with his children, which
is important to me.
He Told Me He's Hung Up On His Ex
He told me from the beginning that he
is hung up on his ex-girlfriend. They have not seen
each other in eleven months. He feels as if she was
his sole mate, but she wants nothing to do with him.
Actually she has even had her ex-husband call this guy
and asked him not to contact her anymore. He doesn't
call her but she is on his mind.
Then there is the ex-wife, he still does
what ever she asks, just as if they were still married.
Unless her boyfriend is over at her house. Then she
cuts him off and treats him like poop. Basically she
has her cake and is eating it too.
He Wants to Take It Slow
At this time he is telling me that he
wants to take our relationship VERY slow because he
wants to make sure that what he had with his ex-girlfriend
is really gone. I think it is gone - after eleven months
if she hasn't come back by now, chances are she won't.
But We've Already Had Sex
Even though he claims to be be taking
the slow path, we have already consummated our relationship.
I think this guy could be the one for me but I am not
sure of why he is wanting to think of this ex-girlfriend
and also why he is still on the honey-do list for his
ex-wife.
I really like him, he is very cute, in
shape, treats me with a great deal of respect, loves
his children, like the same music I like, etc.
Will he ever get past these other women?
Is there any chance for us?
Female, age 34, Houston, TX
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