Dear I Quit:

You are right. You should definitely quit, at least what you are doing and with whom. It would be best if you quit, got to know yourself better, and stopped looking so that love can find you.

Look At Yourself

The looking you need to do first is within yourself. To be attractive to someone who wants a permanent, or at least long-term relationship, you have to like yourself and have good self-esteem.

Become Happy With YOU

I agree. Thinking about what she wants in a partner will really help.

You need to know yourself, and what you like, what you want, what you need, in a partner, to be successful in attracting the right kind of man for you. Are you happy with who and what you are and have achieved in your life so far. Do you enjoy hobbies, reading, going to chucrh or temple, sharing yourself in charitable ways, giving to the community and/or mentoring a needy person? Do you belong to any groups? Do you do more than just go to work, come home, watch TV, eat and sleep? 

Be happy with yourself as a human being and others will be drawn to you. Seek out interests, hobbies, go to classes to increase your knowledge and experiences, read a lot to expand your understanding of yourself and others.

Many Woman Have Their Best Relationships at Age 40

You're right. The average marriage age for women is going up!

Many women can begin their best relationships at 40, because they are secure in who they are and what they need, and what they are willing to
share of themselves.

Expand Yourself

Become the best person you can, the one you have always wanted to be, and go out there and share yourself without worrying about actually looking for someone - and the right person should fall into your orbit. Extend yourself.

Don't just go home and habitate! Explore interests and expand your horizons and you will find there is more out there than you imagined - and if there is not one specific man out there, or several you would like to date, you will be happy with yourself because you will have achieved becoming the best person you can be.

Take Care of Yourself

There is nothing to quit - you will be expanding your horizons, evolving into your highest form, and enjoying yourself and all those around you more without worrying if you are dating the right SOMEONE. Take care of yourself, physically, emotionally and deep within, and people will be drawn to you.

You will have to turn down engagements because others will recognize they want to be around someone like you, and when you LIKE YOURSELF, others follow.

Good luck!

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