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Dear I Quit,
There is nothing wrong with the way that you feel, at some point
we have all felt frustrated and hopeless when it comes to finding
a partner. You may never find a partner and although that may seem
strange to your friends you are not alone.
You Don't Need Therapy
I copied this information from an article that I found on Yahoo
News. It seems to validate that traditional views and means of achieving
partnerships has changed dramatically in our time and proves that
you are okay and don't need a therapist.
The Facts
The so-called "never-marrieds" are one of the fastest-growing
groups in America, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. Singles
constitute more than 40 percent of the adult population, and 10
percent of all adults will never marry, according to 2000 census
statistics.
Marriage Age Is Going Up
In less than 30 years, the number of people who have never walked
down the aisle has more than doubled, as the median age of marriage
has reached a historic high: 25 years for women, and 27 years for
men.
You Are Not Alone
Why is America becoming more and more a nation of singles? "People
are being more demanding. It's a soulmate or nothing, when a generation
ago, less than half the people said something similar to that,"
relationship therapist Laura Berman told Good Morning America .
In a 1965 survey, three out of four college women said they would
marry a man they didn't love if he fit their criteria in every other
way. Not anymore.
A recent Rutgers University study found 94 percent of people between
the ages of 20 and 29 agreed to the statement: "When you marry,
you want your spouse to be your soulmate, first and foremost."
Modern Women Are Supporting Themselves
In addition to that, modern women are able to support themselves,
and do not need men for their money, Berman said. Many are buying
homes for themselves. "They need a man for enhancing their
lives, but not for creating them," she said." You shouldn't
close your heart off to the possibility that you may meet "the
one" and live happily ever-after, perhaps it is just taking
the karmic wheel a bit longer to turn in your direction.
Possibly your dissatisfaction with previous relationship attempts
has left you jaded and that shows thru and turns potential mates
off. Maybe it just isn't your destiny to walk the traditional road,
you may be a pioneer amongst friends as a "never-married"
paving the way for others.
Accept Your Situation
Whatever the case it seems that you need to come to terms with
your situation and accept it for what it is. Love has a funny way
of finding us once we stop looking and open our hearts to the myriad
of possibilities the universe can toss our way.
I wish you the best of luck my friend, please stay positive and
love yourself.
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