Dear Freak,

Ok, first things first! YOU NEED A HUG!!!! *big hug*

People See You As You See Yourself

Right. He should change his attitude.

Now, second issue is your confidence. You say that you feel like a loser and you assume that other people must see you in the same way. Why assume that? You need to understand that people will most often see you the way you see yourself--no kidding.

If you walk out tomorrow with your head help high, and you walk upright and say hi to the grocery checker, and open doors for people, you will immediately see this concept at work.

If your self-confidence issues run deeper than that and you really care what women think, then think "what would women find attractive?"

Boost Your Confidence

Play to your high points--if you have a good sense of humor, try it out every now and then. If you need to improve on some things, go for it! Hit the gym. Take a dance class. Anything to boost your confidence a bit and get you doing some basic socialization...little by little!

Fool Yourself

I agree. He may have to fake happiness.

If you feel like you're fooling people, who cares. Fool yourself into thinking that you are one hell of a man until you believe it!

You Are Not Alone

Additionally, you mention the prospect of "ending it all"...this troubles me. Life is stupid sometimes and people all have their struggles, some with work, some with relationships. You are not alone.

TRY To Like Yourself

Everyone has something that they just can't master yet...but what will keep you going is TRYING. TRY to like yourself. TRY to improve yourself. Don't take what people (ESPECIALLY WOMEN) say to you so personally. The woman who told you that "you couldn't keep up", well maybe she's a wild lady! Let things roll off your back.

Hey buddy--YOU decide how people see you. If you don't like how you see yourself, either change YOURSELF or change the way you are looking at yourself...make sense? GOOD LUCK!!

– Kalia