Dear Panel,

I really don't know if I am in a real relationship.

A guy from high school really liked me and I thought he was nice, but I never went out with him. He's smart, has a nice build and treats me with respect. When I went to college we ended up going out and after the first date ended he hugged me and then kissed me very passionately. From then on, every date ended with some kind of physical intimacy other than sex.

He Talks About Marriage

I know he really cares for me. We used to go out on dates, but now all he does is want to take me to a secluded place so we can make out. He talks about marriage and when we have a family how it will be, but I am confused and don't know how to just tell him that either we will spend quality time together or not be in each other's lives.

We Have Different Morals

He is a good person, but I think our morals are different. I'm a quiet, religious person and he's the party type. Should I try to work things out and accept that we are different people? Should I believe that he really want to be with me even though the signs point to sex. Every date get closer to sex.

He Sees Me As a Goal

I think that he sees me as a goal sometimes, but he does let me know how much he cares about me and I don't doubt that he wants to be with me, but I'm just confused.

Please help.

Female, age 21, Florida

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