Dear Confused,

Talk To Him

He won't care what she says. He just sees her as a walking vagina.

I think the best thing for you to do is have a talk with this young man. If you're not comfortable with being so physical with someone that you hardly know, he has a right to know that.

If you don't tell him, you're not doing him any favors. If all your dates are centered around physical contact and that's not the way you want it to be, it is your responsibility to let him know that. You're not doing yourself or him any favors by avoiding the subject.

You're Leading Up to Sex

You're right about the fact that your make-out sessions are leading up to sex, especially if we're talking about "heavy petting". Going so far and then not actually going all the way can be frustrating for the both of you.

Go Out During the Day

One thing you can do to ease the tension a bit would be to change up the time and location of your dates - do breakfast at a restaurant, go to the zoo together in the day, go to a concert or some other fun, well-populated event if your date at night.

That will take the pressure off of you and allow the two of you to actually become friends before the issue of sex consumes your entire relationship.

Listen To Yourself

Finally, listen to yourself. Deep down inside, you probably already know if all he wants from you is one thing. Understand that the more two people date and get to know each other and love each other, it is only natural that they will want to share physical intimacy. That's part of the package.

Don't Send Mixed Messages

But you decide what and when you want to share and anyone who truly loves you will respect that whether you decide to just go with what you feel or wait until marriage.

I agree. She hasn't told him to stop.

The problem comes when we send each other mixed messages or ignore what we know is NOT us.

You've got a head on your shoulders, girlfriend! Use it wisely! Love ya!

– Sistergirl